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It All Begins With Trust:

A positive relationship with your child is the most important way to build trust.  It’s where a child’s ability to take on life’s challenges begins.

heart  Kids learn to trust through:

  • Getting lots of loving care.
  • Feeling safe.
  • Having routines.
  • Having limits set and knowing what to expect if rules are broken.
  • Having someone who refuses to give up on them no matter what.

heart  Here’s how you can build trust with your child:

  • Give your child lots of hugs.
  • Make house rules.
  • Have routines:  regular bedtime, dinner time and other activities that they can expect and count on.
  • When you are going out let your child know where you are going and when you will be back (be back on time).
  • Tell your child that you support them no matter what.
  • Be aware of little opportunities to connect, such as during meals, car rides or when doing chores.
  • Schedule time with each child where the two of you play together.

Activity ideas:
Together make a family code of conduct that you can hang on the wall. Check out our list, or make your own!

family rules
family rules

quiz icon Quiz

  1. Your child is having a temper tantrum at the mall.  What is the best plan?

    a) Tell your child you are leaving them there, walk away to where they can’t see you and leave them to cry it out.
    b) Punish your child by taking away their favourite toy.
    c) Offer to get your child a treat if they stop crying.
    d) Say, “This is not the way to behave.” Gently pick them up and take them back to the car or a quiet place.

     The best answer is ‘D’. Let your child know what behaviour is okay before you go out. Tell your child what will happen if they misbehave and follow through with what you say. An immediate consequence is better understood.  For example, “Stop crying or we are going home,” rather than, “Stop or you won’t go to Jane’s party next week.”
     The best answer is ‘D’. Let your child know what behaviour is okay before you go out. Tell your child what will happen if they misbehave and follow through with what you say. An immediate consequence is better understood.  For example, “Stop crying or we are going home,” rather than, “Stop or you won’t go to Jane’s party next week.”
  2. You have an appointment and your child doesn’t want you to go. What is the best plan?

    a) Wait until she is distracted and sneak out.
    b) Tell her where you are going and what time you will be back. Give her a hug goodbye and leave.
    c) Try to comfort her crying. If she is afraid, take her with you.

     The best answer is ‘B’. Trust is built with honesty and going through the experience of having mom or dad leave and return as promised.  Give praise when you return. “I know it was hard for you to let Mommy go, but you did it and I’m very proud of you.”
     The best answer is ‘B’. Trust is built with honesty and going through the experience of having mom or dad leave and return as promised.  Give praise when you return. “I know it was hard for you to let Mommy go, but you did it and I’m very proud of you.”
son holding dad's hand

Activity ideas:

  • Trust game – Put a blindfold on your child and have them navigate a pillow obstacle course through you giving them directions.  Change roles and let your child lead you.
  • Create a Support Tree with the people who are important in their life, for example grandparents, pets, community group leaders, daycare provider....

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